tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-79024770976691674092024-03-13T04:39:00.444-04:00Tangled BallPulling out one strand, one problem and one perspective at a time...SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.comBlogger306125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-23151381344545805212016-08-20T11:31:00.000-04:002016-09-09T12:35:24.214-04:00First Days of School -- Be Nice to the New Kid Month<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="215" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/fgB7_KpBDss?rel=0" width="460"></iframe><br />
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By September 7th, most kids up to the age of 18 will be back in school in the U.S. so I've designated September as <b><i>National 'Be Nice to the <a href="https://www.care.com/a/8-tips-for-being-the-new-kid-at-school-1205211600">New Kid</a> Month</i></b>.<br />
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If you've ever had to walk into a school knowing no one, I don't have to explain the importance of a peer introducing themselves or including you at their lunch table or sharing a book if you don't have one. For most kids, the fear and anticipation of starting a new school is like jumping out of an airplane. You know other people have survived but you're not sure you will. That one kind person can feel like soft welcoming ground.<br />
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Although I'm sure she doesn't remember me, I'll never forget the girl who was nice to the new kid. When my family moved from a small town in Indiana to San Juan, Puerto Rico, I was going into 8th grade. I didn't know the language. I was leaving the world's best friends right before the best year of elementary. And my new brown and yellow uniform could not have been uglier (the phys ed uniform is too embarrassing even to describe) . A trifecta of horribleness.<br />
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To say that I was scared is an understatement. I wanted to be invisible until Carmelina broke away from her gaggle of friends and switched from Spanish to English as she took me under her wing. She introduced me to as many people as she could and although they weren't mean, they didn't pay much attention to me either. I kept thinking how grateful I was to her for getting me through the dreaded first day. Although most of the other girls didn't ever really warm up to me, Carmelina was kind every single day until graduation.<br />
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Kathryn Otoshi, author of the award-winning children's book,<a href="http://www.tangledball.com/one.html">One</a>, knows that this is a subject near and dear to my heart so she sent me a copy of <a href="http://rjpalacio.com/index.html">Wonder</a>. It beautifully illustrates the plight of the new or different kid and the tangled ball of emotions most kids experience. They need mentors. We are their <a href="http://www.tangledball.com/Be-the-One-Go-To-Adult.html">"Go-To Adults."</a><br />
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So when you drop your kids off at school and you remind them to <i>"be nice to the new kid," </i>know you're raising a <a href="http://bradmeltzer.com/book/i-am-albert-einstein/">leader</a> and this former "new kid" is cheering you on.<br />
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<br />SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-49991073599146939542016-02-24T21:02:00.000-05:002016-02-24T21:02:03.917-05:00Empathy is Everything It's been way too long since my last post.<br />
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There was no time or brain space to blog. The only important thing became being with a family member who was fighting the good fight against cancer.<br />
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Since my brother-in-law's death, it has become even more clear to me how important empathy truly is to the spirit. True suffering is the feeling of being alone.<br />
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Feeling alone is how children/teens feel when they have been belittled and demeaned and no one seems to care. It's a feeling they don't have to have. It's grief for an irrational reason. <br />
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For anyone who has had this feeling of loss, I think you'll agree that a little<a href="http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/02/20/467263025/they-brought-cookies-for-a-new-widow-empathy-eases-death-s-pain"> empathy</a> goes a long way.<br />
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There are many ways to nurture empathy in children -- just ask the <a href="http://kidpresident.com/"><b>Kid President</b></a> (Robby Novak). <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Kid-Presidents-Guide-Being-Awesome/dp/0062358685">Kid President's Guide to Being Awesome </a>has 100 ideas on how to make the world a better place. If you've never checked out the Soul Pancake's Kid President videos, they're just the perfect thing to inspire empathy and action while making you and your kids have a laugh and a reason to dance.<br />
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Empathy is everything, especially when you've lost your reason to dance. <br />
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I have to admit to fatigue. At times, I feel like a cheerleader for a team that only wins a few games a year and can't seem to fill a stadium. <br />
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The issue of bullying finally started getting some attention for, unfortunately, tragic reasons. First there was Columbine, then national stories of young kids and suicide and then along came <a href="http://www.thebullyproject.com/">Bully</a>, the documentary that exposed some of the unthinkable ways peers treat each other.<br />
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Politicians, including the President, jumped in, laws were created and companies started sponsoring bullying prevention initiatives. All good but I fear bullying will become the latest issue to fade into the background of the national consciousness just like homelessness or AIDS or the environment. In other words, if you're in it for the long haul, you have to deal with the boomerang effect. When I talk about bullying prevention, I can now see that dreaded look in people's eyes that say, <i>"Been there, done that."</i><br />
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Just when I started thinking that I was wasting my time, I opened my email and there was an anonymous message that simply read, <i>"Plz help me."</i> I tried to reach back but there was no way to do it. It originally was sent to me through a thread on <a href="http://www.thebullyproject.com/">The Bully Project</a> web site. Luckily I saw that they list a help line and because I haven't stopped worrying about this person, I hope they reached out.<br />
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It doesn't matter if bullying is the topic du jour. It is still a source of incredible pain for thousands of kids and their parents. Missing out on a lighthearted childhood is it's own tragedy.<br />
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My area of interest in this big tangled ball of a mess called "bullying" is the bigger topic of resilience and leadership. My theory is that we have to start focusing on character education at a much younger age and parents need to be at the center of the effort. It needs to be simple, affordable, sustainable, creative and positive.<br />
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In the fall, I will start a series for young parents on how to nurture leadership skills at home and encourage it in school because the more "little leaders" in the classroom, the less likely bullying will be a big problem. Good all around.<br />
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In the meantime, I like to share really good resources. My pick of the day is the book <a href="http://rjpalacio.com/book.html">"Wonder,"</a> by R.J. Palacio. The truth is that kids perceived as "different," whether it's a learning, physical or emotional challenge are picked on. <b>Wonder</b> will inspire you to be a better parent and will give you an insight to the true meaning of leadership, resilience and spirit.<br />
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If you're reading this, it means you care, too. Thank you.<br />
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<br />SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-90994530678632833792015-03-03T16:11:00.000-05:002015-03-04T18:00:40.264-05:00Did You Ever Know Red Hood Doing Some Good Down By The Bay?<i><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/qOUsrPV4LiE" width="560"></iframe></i><br />
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Now I'm pouring over books like <a href="http://www.anticancerbook.com/">Anticancer</a>, making rice with turmeric and buying the organic version of everything...which is what got my husband and I talking about how long it takes the general population to change. And how hard it must have been for the brave souls who knew better and dared to have a voice.<br />
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The children's music of Raffi was undeniably the house favorite throughout the childhoods of our four children. Dancing to <i>"Down by the Bay" </i>was almost a requirement for anyone coming to visit.<br />
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One day I heard on the news that Raffi had refused to have his CDs sold in those obnoxious plastic jewel boxes because they were bad for the environment. Remember, sugar cereals were still a staple in our house, as well as the kind of really orange cheese that was individually wrapped in plastic. I thought, <i>"Whoa! That's over the top!"</i><br />
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Of course now I know better and my respect for Raffi goes way beyond his talent for bringing joy by singing songs that make you want to jump around with your kids.<br />
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I've always thought deep in the recesses of my brain that Raffi and I would have a lot in common some day...and the day is here.<br />
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He's still a pioneer but this time it's about children and the critical issue of internet safety. He was right about the environment and now he's right about the failure of technology companies to protect our kids.<br />
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After the tragic suicide of <a href="http://news.nationalpost.com/2012/10/12/amanda-todd-suicide-2012/">Amanda Todd</a>, Raffi co-founded the <a href="http://www.redhoodproject.com/what-is-redhood/">Red Hood Project</a> and has written <a href="http://www.raffinews.com/">Lightweb Darkweb</a> about online safety. Parent education is key but who will stand up against some of the giants who are not sincerely stepping up to protect our kids? And honestly, I believe parent and child internet education should begin in kindergarten or first grade.<br />
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Now that I'm older, I can recognize a hero much quicker. Raffi Rocks.<br />
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<i><br /></i>SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-13704481075964242382015-02-05T18:14:00.000-05:002015-02-05T18:14:31.075-05:00Kid President says #Makeithappy Online<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="215" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/i9VnTZrSNvU" width="460"></iframe><br />
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Once again, <a href="http://www.kidpresident.com/">Kid President</a> is full of good ideas. Seems as if Coca Cola thinks so, too.<br />
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Whether we're the type of parents who diligently talk to our children about online safety or the type of parents who are afraid of our children's "new neighborhood" and just hope for the best, most of us don't talk to our kids about how to <i>make it happy</i>.<br />
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Countering negativity online is within everyone's reach and children should be encouraged to always <i><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Filled-Bucket-Today-Guide-Happiness/dp/0978507517">fill someone's bucket</a> </i>whether they're in the schoolyard or are online.<br />
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Let's turn it around so that negative comments are the exception instead of the rule.<br />
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#Makeithappy...and for sound advice about kids, technology and all things media I suggest <a href="https://www.commonsensemedia.org/">Common Sense Media</a> as one of the best resources out there. <br />
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Positivity. It's also Gluten Free. Right, Kid President?<br />
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<br />SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-41105768576386240892014-12-22T14:33:00.000-05:002014-12-22T14:36:41.186-05:00Peanut Butter Jelly Time Homecoming<br />
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When it comes to serving our country, One (Soldier) Can Count. When it comes to supporting families, One (School) Can Count. When it comes to getting home safe and sound, One (Adorable Little Daughter) Can Count.<br />
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We all can make a difference. Just ask J.E. Woodard School in Columbia, Tennessee. They make it a point to teach their students how to be a <a href="http://tangledball.com/one.html">ONE</a> all year long.<br />
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Thank you to David Fitzgerald for his service and to the J.E. Woodard Elementary School for inspiring me today.<br />
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<br />SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-61286279466101410832014-11-07T07:53:00.000-05:002014-11-07T07:53:15.291-05:00Reading, Pajamas and the Little Leaders Among Us<br />
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I met the most extraordinary boy yesterday through the <a href="http://pajamaprogram.org/">Pajama Program</a>. (Please click the link if you want to find out about the coolest organization doing something simply spectacular...inspiring reading and providing warm pajamas to under served kids.)</div>
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Shane, age 8, and I were reading the book <a href="http://friedab.com/">Frieda B.</a> It's a whimsical book about imagination and dreams. It led to a conversation about what we want in our lives. He said his dream was to become a billionaire. When I asked why, I expected answers like <i>"getting a big house"</i> or <i>"buying every video game." </i> His answer shocked me.<br />
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Before the kids arrived, the volunteers were talking about helping kids. One wise man, Steve, who worked as a volunteer in the inner city Newark (NJ) school system for years talked about cutting through the rough exterior of kids who struggle during their growing up years. His approach was to find common ground and build trust. Common ground can be hard to find when there's an age, ethnic, and demographic difference. He did it by bringing in photos of his dogs. <br />
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He said that it doesn't matter how old the kids are. His advice is to never lose faith. Sometimes middle and high school kids act tough but there's still a child underneath all the layers.<br />
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I have to add to that. I think there's also a leader under all those layers. Sometimes we just need the chance to have the conversation.<br />
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Thanks <b>Pajama Program, </b><a href="http://www.pajamaprogram.org/">sponsored by Scholastic and Carter's</a>, for providing the platform and the common ground called books to be inspired by the little leaders among us.<br />
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<br />SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-43225160127680816402014-10-14T14:52:00.000-04:002014-11-05T10:40:54.299-05:00Teaching Our Kids How to MEDABO<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Last week I handed out three <a href="http://www.medabo.org/">MEDABO</a> cards in very unlikely places. Two were on the 15X express bus from Staten Island to Manhattan and the other one was on the #4 subway.<br />
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He said out loud,. <i>"That's a shame. People just don't say I'm sorry anymore"</i> He continued, <i>"I'm sorry" works. As a matter of fact, I said it to my 6 year-old daughter last night. She was upset that I came home late and I looked her in the eye and said, 'I'm sorry.' And she was satisfied."</i></div>
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Thanks to the <a href="http://www.pacer.org/">Pacer Center,</a> October has been declared <b>Bullying Prevention Month</b>.<br />
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Since I work mainly with Pre-K through elementary schools, I would respectfully like to rename it "<b><i>Leadership is the Anti-Bully"</i> <i>Month</i></b>. At these ages, we should remove the labels of "bully," "victim or target" and teach children skills. Learning how to respect themselves and others will benefit them through middle and high school and the rest of their lives.<br />
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There are many great social emotional learning programs that have been introduced into schools over the years, including<a href="http://www.casel.org/"> CASEL</a>, <a href="http://www.theleaderinme.org/">The Leader In Me</a> program, <a href="http://www.schoolclimate.org/">National School Climate Center (NSCC)</a> and <a href="http://ei.yale.edu/ruler/">Yale's Ruler Program,</a> among many others.<br />
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Some schools embrace the idea that teaching leadership and social emotional learning is an important part of the student's education while others don't make it as much of a priority. <a href="http://ei.yale.edu/ruler/the-anchors-of-emotional-intelligence/">But the schools that do embrace it do better academically.</a> Makes sense. The safer and happier a child feels, the better they perform.<br />
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When Kathryn Otoshi, author of the award-winning book, <b>One</b>, and I created <a href="http://www.tangledball.com/one.html">One Can Count</a>, we didn't know what to call it. We hesitated to call it a program or initiative. Too complicated. Would people understand if we simply called it a tool?<br />
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We wanted to remove any barriers that would make teaching leadership challenging. The truth is that schools DO have too much to do. There IS too much on their plate. Each teacher and staff member can't be asked to be an expert in EVERYTHING.<br />
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I enthusiastically support schools who have invested time and money into high-quality school-wide programs that positively impact school climate but not all schools can or have. We wanted to at least provide something simple, inexpensive and that school staff could embrace and make their own. We wanted to inspire schools to give students a chance to step up in very real ways. Practicing leadership includes simple concepts such as older students mentoring younger children. It also includes identifying jobs that students can do as part of the regular school day or even the special occasion days. In other words, any opportunity that doesn't compete but enhances classroom time.<br />
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We also wanted <b>One Can Count</b> to be inclusive. We encourage any school to use it in conjunction with any other initiative or program. Teachers and counselors need tools. <br />
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I want to thank the 30 schools on Staten Island who used <b>One Can Count</b> last year thanks to <a href="http://www.nysenate.gov/press-release/senator-andrew-lanza-sponsor-anti-bullying-workshop-one-can-count">Senator Andrew Lanza</a>, who sponsored the workshop at St. John's University, as well as materials and multiple copies of the <b>One</b> and <b>Zero</b> books for each school. Principals, teachers, parent coordinators, and counselors got inspired and had fun. The result? Kids got inspired and had fun, too.<br />
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This is a month of awareness but the benefits of the efforts on the part of schools, organizations and parents will last a lifetime.<br />
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<br />SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-56628160495875536422014-09-02T15:24:00.001-04:002016-08-20T11:19:43.501-04:00National Be Nice to the New Kid Day<br />
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By September 7th, most kids up to the age of 18 will be back in school in the U.S. so I've designated the 7th as <b><i>National 'Be Nice to the <a href="https://www.care.com/a/8-tips-for-being-the-new-kid-at-school-1205211600">New Kid</a> Day</i></b>.'<br />
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If you've ever had to walk into a school knowing no one, I don't have to explain the importance of a peer introducing themselves or including you at their lunch table or sharing a book if you don't have one. For most kids, the fear and anticipation of starting a new school is like jumping out of an airplane. You know other people have survived but you're not sure you will. That one kind person can feel like soft welcoming ground.<br />
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Although I'm sure she doesn't remember me, I'll never forget the girl who was nice to the new kid. When my family moved from a small town in Indiana to San Juan, Puerto Rico, I was going into 8th grade. I didn't know the language. I was leaving the world's best friends right before the best year of elementary. And my new brown and yellow uniform could not have been uglier (the phys ed uniform is too embarrassing even to describe) . A trifecta of horribleness.<br />
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To say that I was scared is an understatement. I wanted to be invisible until Carmelina broke away from her gaggle of friends and switched from Spanish to English as she took me under her wing. She introduced me to as many people as she could and although they weren't mean, they didn't pay much attention to me either. I kept thinking how grateful I was to her for getting me through the dreaded first day. Although most of the other girls didn't ever really warm up to me, Carmelina was kind every single day until graduation.<br />
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Kathryn Otoshi, author of the award-winning children's book,<a href="http://www.tangledball.com/one.html">One</a>, knows that this is a subject near and dear to my heart so she sent me a copy of <a href="http://rjpalacio.com/index.html">Wonder</a>. It beautifully illustrates the plight of the new or different kid and the tangled ball of emotions most kids experience. They need mentors. We are their <a href="http://www.tangledball.com/Be-the-One-Go-To-Adult.html">"Go-To Adults."</a><br />
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So when you drop your kids off at school and you remind them to <i>"be nice to the new kid," </i>know you're raising a <a href="http://bradmeltzer.com/book/i-am-albert-einstein/">leader</a> and this former "new kid" is cheering you on.<br />
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<br />SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-54228775118506036102014-07-15T11:48:00.000-04:002014-07-15T11:48:01.134-04:00The Silent Soul Crusher of #Bullying<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Sometimes it's not the words that hurt, it's the shrug of the shoulders, it's the no eye contact, it's the looking through a person and not at them. It's the absence of words.</div>
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Message is received. You're not important. Your heart shrinks a little more. Kids know when their peers or even adults are not that interested in them. It's like the title of the book and movie by the same name, <i>"He's Just Not that Into You."</i> </div>
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This is something that has to be experienced to understand. And that's really part of the harsh reality. Often this is a silent soul crusher because the method of hurting another is off the radar. No one sees it. It's no big deal to others. It doesn't matter. There is no recourse. It is isolating and there is no road map.</div>
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No child should feel alone. Correction. No person should feel alone.</div>
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My hope is that <i>you</i> are seen and appreciated today.</div>
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SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-77544908559371835832014-07-03T10:36:00.000-04:002014-07-03T10:38:14.785-04:00Chain of Leadership as the Anti-Bully<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The 2013-2014 school year was full of light bulb moments.<br />
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It started out with this thought: What if we gave young students the chance to shine as leaders? What if we spent as much time creating opportunities for them to practice their leadership skills as we did talking to them about bullying? What if we got a little creative? What if we could inspire the adults and the kids without it being a hassle or taking away from class time? What if we made it inexpensive? Simple? Flexible? And dare I say, what if it was fun?<br />
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The answer was <a href="http://www.tangledball.com/one.html">One Can Count</a>, based on Kathryn Otoshi's award-winning book, <b>One</b>, and thanks to Senator Lanza, we were able to answer some of those burning questions. <br />
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It is the first time that all 30 elementary schools in Senator Lanza's Staten Island district received the tools they needed to start their own <b>One Can Count</b> initiative. It became a chain of leadership. From the free workshop in September to the last day in June, schools made <b>One Can Count</b> their own. Parent coordinators, teachers, principals and counselors embraced the concept that <i>leadership is the anti-bully</i>. <br />
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Here's the simple theory: Kids need attention. They'll get it any way they can. So, if you give them the chance to be their best self, they most often rise to the occasion. The more leaders you have in a classroom, the better the balance.<br />
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Although it's a children's book, every age, including grown ups are inspired by the power that each of us has to stand up and be the <b>One</b> that steps in. <br />
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<b>One Can Count</b> is designed to be a stand alone initiative or work with existing programs in the school to help children value the concept of respect. Bullying is a tangled ball and just like any messy and complicated issue, it often requires many small solutions. <br />
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With that being said, I was amazed at what schools accomplished this year. They took this tool and ran with it. They had mentoring programs, art and writing projects, assemblies, leadership counsels, performances, and much more. They created daily reminders of what it's like to be a <b>One</b>. <br />
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The year started out with questions but it ended with an answer:<br />
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Words of a 5th Grade Leader presenting chain of leadership to Senator Lanza:<br />
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Multiple copies of <b>One</b> and the companion book, <b>Zero</b>, were delivered to each of the 30 schools in early September.<br />
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With the generous support of St. John's University, schools came together to hear from experts, including author Kathryn Otoshi and to discuss ideas in which schools could easily incorporate the concepts of leadership.<br />
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Materials to help get the tangled ball rolling are free and downloadable <a href="http://www.tangledball.com/one.html">here</a>.<br />
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Schools had the option of ordering special personalized <b>One Can Count</b> t-shirts for students or teachers.<br />
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We're just getting started. Next year our goal is to have every student feel like a leader. -- <i>Parent Coordinator, P.S. 80</i></blockquote>
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Thank you Senator Lanza, St. John's University, Kathryn Otoshi, and especially schools, for delivering hundreds of light bulb moments for me and hopefully Staten Island elementary school students. Looking forward to 2014-2015.<br />
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<br />SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-83830647323628803042014-06-03T14:40:00.000-04:002014-06-06T08:59:31.939-04:00A School Full of Leaders: A Plan at SI's Petrides<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The goal at Staten Island's Petrides (P.S. 80) is to have a school full of leaders. They believe that every student has the potential to be a leader. It's a priority and they have a plan. It started with an interested parent coordinator, enthusiastic administrators, a handful of student leaders and a big dose of enthusiasm and creativity.<br />
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<a href="http://www.tangledball.com/one.html">One Can Count</a>, sponsored by <a href="http://www.nysenate.gov/senator/andrew-j-lanza">NYS Senator Andrew Lanza</a> and based on Kathryn Otoshi's award-winning children's book, <b>One, </b> is in full swing. Petrides, a dynamic K-12 school that values respect, is constantly developing ways to get across the point that each child has the ability to become their "best self" and add to the good of the whole.<br />
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Student leaders in the 4th and 7th grades got the <a href="http://www.tangledball.com/">tangled ball</a> rolling by visiting each and every classroom from K-8th grade to read <b>One</b>. Think about this. Seventh graders reading a children's book to the mighty 8th graders. That takes courage. <br />
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Students got involved in simple activities that inspired them to think about themselves as a One. Using cut outs of the #1, they reflected on how they could be a One. Then they created shadow cut outs of their profiles with an assignment that asked "<i>How Am I a Leader?</i>" Powerful.<br />
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Students, administrators and teachers are encouraged to recognize others for being a One. The hallways are lined with photos of kids and teachers with a brief description of their positive action.<br />
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Example: <i>John Paul was caught being a One when he invited a lonely classmate to play.</i><br />
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Students will all be contributing to a <b>chain of leadership</b>. Each paper link represents a student and when each student brings their unique talents and they're connected to each other, the community becomes strong, nurturing and a safe place to learn and enjoy growing up.<br />
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Why is One Can Count such a success at Petrides? Support. Parent Coordinator <b>Jami Kilichowski</b> and Elementary School Assistant Principal <b>Danielle Bennett </b>attended the<b> One Can Count </b>workshop in September. They took a spark ignited from the workshop and created a fire of enthusiasm among school staff and students. And it doesn't stop this year. A detailed plan has already been outlined for next year.<br />
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It's not just words at Petrides. It's a plan. One administrator, one teacher, one parent coordinator, one mentor, one student at a time.<br />
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I have complete faith that Petrides will reach their goal.<br />
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<br />SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-10570773412686724862014-05-02T09:34:00.000-04:002014-05-02T09:34:10.247-04:00Leadership is Igniting Good<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #373737; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 23px;">Recently, I had the pleasure of listening to my son give a speech about leadership. In his short remarks, he said that leadership is about i</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #373737; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 23px;">nterconnectivity, empathy and attitude.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #373737; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 23px;">Of the three, he emphasized interconnectivity which is really</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 19px;"> community. We don't necessarily have to have research to tell us that we're social beings who need each other to be happy but there is plenty of it to support the obvious. Feeling connected is one of our basic drivers throughout life. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 18px;">And staying connected enough to have empathy may be our biggest challenge as a culture. It's one of the tangled strings in the tangled ball in our texting, friending and posting society. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px;">But here's the hopeful part (attitude!). It's all evolving. There are smart, empathetic connected people who know the value of Facebook, Instagram and all things social media but who are actively giving a generation permission to remember that now, more than ever, we still need to get to know people face to face. Adding to the quality of other people's lives adds to the quality of our own. </span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px;">It's fairly brave to swim in a slightly different direction. To say it's ok to embrace something new but to pay attention to the thing that makes us click and makes us whole. Purpose.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px;">Here's to <a href="http://www.ignite-good.org/">Ignite Good</a>. Check out their mission. I dare you not to be inspired.</span></span><br />
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an emphasis on exposing our students to Character Traits such as Respect, Patience, Tolerance,
Responsibility, and Loyalty (just to name a few.) This emphasis shows them
that truly exhibiting these traits will allow them to collaborate and
communicate effectively. -- P.S. 69</i></span></blockquote>
P.S. 69 is keeping their eye of the prize. <br />
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Last week was big for New York schools. Testing Week! Administration, teachers and students gear up for this day from the first day of school. Everything seems to lead to this ever important time.<br />
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Correction. Almost everything. At P.S. 69, they have a wider goal. It's making sure that students learn how to treat each other and become their "best selves" all year round.<br />
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As part of <a href="http://www.tangledball.com/one.html">One Can Count</a>, sponsored by <a href="http://www.nysenate.gov/press-release/senator-lanza-ps-5-kickoff-bullying-prevention-campaign-one-can-count">NYS Senator Lanza</a>, every grade level and every classroom used Kathryn Otoshi's award-winning books <b>One</b> and <b>Zero</b> as a foundation to promote the concept that <i>"Everyone Counts." </i>(The school even involved the parents by asking the second graders to perform a play based on One for the PTA meeting.)<i> </i> Although the new core curriculum has taken over and has been a time consuming focus, P.S. 69 didn't want character education to go by the wayside. <br />
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Inspiring kids takes time, energy and a lot of creativity. Hats off to ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) Nest Coach Stefanie Martingano, and principal Doreen E. Murphy for making sure their students gain leadership skills because <b><i>leadership is the anti-bully</i></b>. Teachers get in on the act, as well, and wear their <b>One Can Count</b> t-shirts to remind the students that <i>"<b>Sometimes It Just Takes One."</b></i><b> </b>With the help of the staff, each student has received the message that they are a leader.<br />
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Even before the tests were finished, it was clear that this is a school full of winners. <br />
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Visiting Staten Island's P.S. 45 (John Tyler School) inspired me. <i>(For those reading this outside of New York City, P.S. stands for Public School.)</i><br />
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Every student in this elementary school participated in an awesome kick-off assembly honoring <a href="http://schools.nyc.gov/rulespolicies/respectforall/default.htm">Respect for All Week.</a> The students were led in a special reading of Kathryn Otoshi's book <b>Zero</b> by a group of their peers involved in the SOAR program. (To facilitate character building, New York State <a href="http://www.nysenate.gov/senator/andrew-j-lanza">Senator Andrew Lanza</a> sponsored <a href="http://www.tangledball.com/one.html">One Can Count</a> in all the elementary schools in his district. Multiple copies of <b>One</b> and <b>Zero </b>were provided to each school.)<br />
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Purple</b>: Purple is the color of good judgment. It is said if you surround
yourself with purple you will have peace of mind. Purple is a good color to use
in meditation. Purple has been used to symbolize magic and mystery, as well as
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Activity: Good Deed Catalog</b><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 11.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">It goes without saying that
it’s important to teach kids to do nice things for one another. During Respect
for All Week, keep a running tally of good deeds that students perform. These
can include helping clean up, consoling a sad classmate, sharing, helping out a
friends, etc. Tell your class that if they reach a certain number of good deeds
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After reading the book, the group of SOAR students (as young as 3rd grade) led the entire school in a question and answer session based on the themes of <b>Zero</b>, including "What does it mean to have a hole in your middle?" and "How did it feel to have the other numbers step up?".</div>
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Teaching leadership and respect takes a lot of hard work. Mentoring children is exhausting and never a perfect process. For those reasons, I am deeply grateful for the fine professionals at P.S. 45 and other schools around the country who hang in there every day and give it 100%. You deserve a parade.</div>
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There's an upside and a downside to our focus on bullying prevention. The upside, of course, is that we're shedding light on the pervasive culture of mean that is destroying the confidence of so many children and teens. </div>
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The downside is that the conversation doesn't go deep enough. Should we be talking just about prevention or should we be spending some time exploring what makes children <b><i>resilient</i></b>? I'd love to think that we can "prevent" all bullying. With a lot more work and dare I say, money, I definitely think we can change the balance in schools and homes...but kids will always face the challenge of mean behavior.</div>
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So what's the difference between the child/teen that carries the hurt with them forever and the person that not only survives but thrives? I've talked with 80 year olds that tell me that the hurt stuck with them for their whole lives and the negative experience had somehow formed them. That's how deep the silent pain hides in the soul. What if that long tail of pain could have been blunted? What if their ability to become resilient was nurtured?</div>
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The subject of resilience is as intricate as the topic of bullying but it deserves it's day in the sun. </div>
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I highly recommend reading Carolyn George's article <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/04/creativity-habits_n_4859769.html">"18 Things Highly Creative People Do Differently</a> in the Huffington Post.</div>
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Many of the most iconic stories and songs of all time have been inspired
by gut-wrenching pain and heartbreak -- and the silver lining of these
challenges is that they may have been the catalyst to create great art.
An emerging field of psychology called post-traumatic growth is
suggesting that many people are able to use their hardships and
early-life trauma for substantial creative growth. Specifically,<a href="http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/beautiful-minds/2013/05/06/turning-adversity-into-creative-growth/"> researchers have found </a>that trauma can help people to grow in the areas of interpersonal
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When we allow kids to daydream, it nurtures their individual creativity. Their creativity defines them as a unique powerful person. When kids are allowed to go into "the zone," they are happier and more satisfied. It's harder to negatively impact a person who knows what makes them feel the joy of their own individuality. Creativity comes in so many forms...art, music, writing, sports, film, tv production, theater, even developing video games...anything that takes vision. </div>
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Just as I was feeling down realizing that there would be no gold medalist to watch tonight, I came across this <a href="http://www.nationswell.com/">story</a> of a college guy who should receive the gold for putting 2 and 2 together and feeding thousands. <a href="http://www.foodrecoverynetwork.org/get-involved/start-a-chapter/">Food Recovery Network</a> is an organization that donates food from college campuses to the hungry.<br />
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Leadership is about not being afraid of having a really good idea and making it happen, even if no one else has thought of it before (but maybe they should have.) It's about inspiring your peers to do even more.<br />
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Thank you, Ben Simon, for doing the equivalent of a perfect freestyle skiing run or an impeccable "twizzle" or racing the fastest down a bobsled course. You put yourself out there every day without any expectation of a hometown heroes welcome.<br />
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I'm cheering you on whether you're in Sochi or not. College Park is equally impressive.SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-80596402949679554072014-02-06T13:20:00.000-05:002014-02-06T19:20:10.586-05:00Are the Next Great Leaders At P.S. 22?<iframe frameborder="0" height="240" src="http://abc.go.com/embed/VDKA0_iques1l2" width="426"></iframe><br />
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ABC's The View celebrated Martin Luther King, Jr. Day by asking Staten Island's P.S. 22 Chorus to appear on their show to sing, "We Shall Overcome." The song was interspersed with students reciting lines from Dr. King's famous "I Have A Dream" speech.<br />
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<a href="http://ps22chorus.blogspot.com/">P.S. 22</a> is known for its famous chorus. They've sung with incredible musical artists as well as making appearances at <b>The White House</b> and the <b>Oscars</b>, among many other incredible venues, thanks to the passion of their musical director, Gregg Breinberg (or affectionately called, Mr. B.) Mr. B. took a small elementary school job on Staten Island and did it so well that eventually the world took notice. That's a lesson in loving what you do and doing the best job possible. That's leadership.<br />
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But P.S. 22 is more than the famous chorus. It's a school full of students learning to be leaders. I was speaking with the school last week, and they are equally enthusiastic about the many projects they do with the entire student body to ensure that they are contributing to society and becoming the best people possible.<br />
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Students are learning that <a href="http://www.tangledball.com/one.html">One Can Count</a> at P.S. 55 on Staten Island.<br />
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Fifth graders are the experts as they partner with the Kindergartners to reinforce the message, <i>"Everyone Counts."</i> After reading Kathryn Otoshi's award-winning book, <a href="http://www.kokidsbooks.com/">One</a>, the mentors got together with their younger counterparts to lead them in an activity that demonstrates that everyone is unique, beautiful and valuable. (<b>One</b> is an ageless children's book which beautifully and simply inspires kids -- and adults, too -- to step up for themselves and for others.)<br />
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A <b><a href="http://www.tangledball.com/one.html">One Can Count</a></b> team of teachers and staff came up with the idea of doing something seasonal that expressed the importance of respecting each other's differences. As the partners created their own snowflakes together, the students had fun getting to know one another as well as crafting something that they could display with pride.<br />
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There are so many positive things about P.S. 55's efforts.<br />
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<a href="http://www.nysenate.gov/senator/andrew-j-lanza">NYS Senator Andrew Lanza</a> provided 30 copies of One and 30 copies of it's companion book, Zero, to each elementary school in his district on Staten Island. Inspired by the book and the gift, P.S. 55 set out to ensure that each student received their own personal copy of <b>One</b>. <br />
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The message of <b>One</b> is for all ages but when you make the older students the teachers, they take ownership of the concepts of kindness, empowerment, and positive action. There are countless benefits of mentoring but perhaps placing students in a leadership role is the most powerful. <b><i>Leadership is the Anti-Bully.</i></b><br />
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When administration, teachers, guidance counselors, parent coordinators and other staff members get together to promote leadership, it's a message to students that they're important. In essence, it demonstrates leadership and students learn by example.<br />
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Think about it. Children learn more when they feel emotionally safe and when they're having fun. The fact that Kindergartners have a friend in the 5th grade is a big deal. Add to that, the time spent doing a creative activity brings joy to both. <br />
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Empathy is easier to teach when students are asked to look out for someone younger. Compassion helps students become <i>"upstanders," </i>the secret weapon against bullying. When kids step up for one another in mean situations, the bullying stops in seconds.<br />
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Hats off to Principal Sharon Fishman, Guidance Counselor Arlene Donnelly, staff members Juleah Bracker and Julia Lucchese and of course and most importantly, the brilliant students at P.S. 55. Getting creative and teaching leadership helps create a school climate of cooperation. <br />
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In other words, P.S. 55 itself is like a snowflake -- unique and beautiful.<br />
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I've been lucky enough to hang out in San Diego for the past month. I have my new granddaughter, Lucy, to thank for keeping me out of the harsh NewYork cold.<br />
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My daily routine includes getting up early and going to the <b>7-Eleven</b> on the corner of Beech and State to get a cup of coffee and it always includes nice conversation with the people working there. For example, early Christmas morning, I happened to ask the cashier how his Christmas Eve had been and then he gave me the most spiritual description of Midnight Mass at St. Paul's Cathedral. He was so peaceful telling me about the music and the lighting of candles.<br />
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It seemed as if he was totally in the moment and appreciating every aspect of life. It suddenly dawned on me that if he was at Midnight Mass, he must have only had a couple of hours of sleep. He happily told me that four hours of sleep was fine and he was able to get off in the afternoon to celebrate the holiday with his family. Not one complaint. Not one.<br />
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I don't know what it is, but every employee there is exceptionally nice. They're not just nice to me. A handful of homeless individuals frequent this store -- begging outside on the corner before they go in. They are also treated with kindness.<br />
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It's gotten to the point that if I'm feeling a bit blue or sleep deprived, I look forward to going in there for a boost. And it's not the caffeine because I only drink decaf.<br />
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It's a culturally diverse group of employees but they all seem to have one thing in common. They know how to treat people and seem to be genuinely interested.<br />
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As I was fumbling around with the simple but complicated process of pouring that first cup, I asked the 20-something guy who was efficiently restocking creamers, if it was a good day. <i>"It has to be," </i>he said. I wasn't 100% sure of what that meant so he explained, <i>"It's my choice to make it a good day and so it has to be a good day."</i> And by making it his choice, he made me aware that it was up to me, too.<br />
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As I was leaving, he said, <i>"Have a good one."</i> And I replied, "<i>Now I will."</i><br />
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Leaders work everywhere and do every type of job. Doing a good job takes commitment and a positive attitude. <br />
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Good lessons for our children. (And speaking of children, there's an awesome woman there who has 5 children, two grandchildren, and looks 20 years younger than her actual age and I think it's because she has an optimistic attitude!)<br />
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Look for leaders wherever you go. You can even get inspired at a <b>7-Eleven</b>.SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-73089762731940193352013-12-11T18:13:00.001-05:002013-12-12T19:16:03.318-05:00Leader Nelson Mandela Was a Child Once<div style="text-align: left;">
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Ever get discouraged at the holidays?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Does it seem like the real meaning gets
lost?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You'd like to give back but
you barely have any energy left after the madness of Black Friday, the tension
of Cyber Monday, the decorating, and the multiple trips to the grocery
store.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There's no time to <i>do
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Start a <b><i>Food Fight</i></b>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
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going to<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><a href="http://www.yougivegoods.com/">YouGiveGoods</a> and starting
an online food drive to benefit the charity of your choice.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You setup a drive page online (in
minutes), use email and social media to invite people to your drive and they
buy food right there online. <b>YouGiveGoods</b> even has a <a href="http://yougivegoodslovesfreshproduce.yougivegoods.com/">fresh produce campaign</a>. When the drive is over <b>YouGiveGoods</b> will deliver
all the food to the pantry. You can even be there when the food is delivered to
have a service day.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Seriously
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Everyone from small and large corporations to families to
fraternities/sororities to high schools to a second grade lacrosse team can create their
own personalized drive.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><a href="http://yougivegoodslovesanimals.yougivegoods.com/">Pet lovers</a>
will be happy to hear that even our four legged friends benefit.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Literally, anyone can start a drive and
challenging departments, chapters, grades, family members and teams to raise
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</span>It's the definition of healthy competition. Just ask <a href="http://www.yougivegoods.com/XavierHSThanksgivingDrive">Xavier High School</a> or <a href="http://www.yougivegoods.com/drive.php?id=2289">six year old Aidan</a> who believes <i>no child should go hungry </i>or the <a href="http://www.yougivegoods.com/AppleMontessoriFightsHunger">Apple Montessori School</a> who wants to feed women and children in need in Paterson, New Jersey.</div>
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SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-8770605421226361732013-11-15T16:02:00.000-05:002016-01-15T16:18:34.541-05:00Principals Have the Power to Encourage Leadership: The Anti-Bully<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVwboKsv20Xeqfq5cZgP3GE_ZVEgJMotixB4m-C7VuugdyJ5qwh2BMwbey588t9PbKdsKN4Poz-10pVPmNFAnSn6un5R6zM-vDPlFL8-XpDM3NIiOC1FI8im_kQgUH0sFjJvc9sqdvMCg/s1600/Staten+Island-20131114-00132.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVwboKsv20Xeqfq5cZgP3GE_ZVEgJMotixB4m-C7VuugdyJ5qwh2BMwbey588t9PbKdsKN4Poz-10pVPmNFAnSn6un5R6zM-vDPlFL8-XpDM3NIiOC1FI8im_kQgUH0sFjJvc9sqdvMCg/s320/Staten+Island-20131114-00132.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 19px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="color: #373737; display: block; line-height: 23px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 25px;"><i><b>Leadership is not a rank or a position. Leadership is a service to be given. -- Simon Sinek</b></i></span></span></span></blockquote>
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Optima;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 19px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="color: #373737; display: block; line-height: 23px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 25px;">Leadership comes in all sizes, shapes, colors, and ages. That's the message being given at P.S. 23, a wonderful elementary school on Staten Island that I recently had the privilege to visit.</span><span style="color: #373737; display: block; line-height: 23px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 25px;">P.S. 23 takes leadership seriously. As part of <a href="http://www.theleaderinme.org/">The Leader In Me</a> program, each student from Kindergarten through 5th grade is taught the <b>7 Habits of Highly Successful People</b> by Stephen R. Covey.</span><span style="color: #373737; display: block; line-height: 23px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 25px;">Often when I walk into a school and see motivational messages on the walls, I think, <i>"that's really nice"</i>...but do they actually promote this to the students in a more meaningful way? Well, I got my answer during the assembly that I led about <a href="http://www.tangledball.com/one.html">One Can Count</a>. <i>(Thanks to <a href="http://www.nysenate.gov/senator/andrew-j-lanza">Senator Lanza</a> for making<b> One Can Count</b> available in Staten Island elementary schools.) </i></span><span style="color: #373737; display: block; line-height: 23px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 25px;">When I asked questions about respect and stepping up for one another, I got answers like <i>"Seek first to understand and then be understood." </i> Or <i>"it's about trust."</i> These are sophisticated concepts for such young students, but kids are smart and when you treat them like they are, they rise to the occasion.</span></span></span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Optima;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #373737; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 23px;">Before the principal, Mr. Paul Proscia, introduced me, he spoke with the children first. He set it up by reminding them that they are all leaders. (By the way, he was not talking to them like children. He was talking to them like intelligent adults in the making. It was a sea of little faces but their brains were active and engaged.) He is helping them change the perception of leadership by explaining that leaders are everywhere -- as construction workers, business people, police officers, teachers, nurses, cafeteria workers. <i>"The president is a leader but you don't have to be president to be considered a leader."</i></span></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #373737; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 22px;">Sound simplistic? It's not. These are messages every 5 year-old and up needs to hear in school. Each child needs to be seen, heard and given the feeling that their unique personalities and talents make them leadership material.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #373737; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 18px;">Why should a school make leadership and social emotional learning a priority? The children do better in school. That's it. Bottom line. They become their "best self."</span></div>
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SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7902477097669167409.post-79608931270660648442013-11-07T09:41:00.000-05:002013-11-07T09:41:39.022-05:00Cyberbullying: Why We Need to Start Raising Little Leaders OnlineIf I have one piece of advice for every single elementary school and every single parent, it is to make <a href="http://www.tangledball.com/one.html">teaching leadership</a> a priority offline...and ONLINE. Start early. <br />
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Common sense says that if we wouldn't let a child cross a street without holding their hand and teaching them the rules of the road, why would we let them loose online where there are a few dark alleys.<br />
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The discussion about technology and younger children involves what's healthy (physically) but also how very young children learn to interact with others (socially/emotionally). If you have young children, this Huffington Post<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-larry-rosen/how-much-technology-shoul_b_3142227.html"> blog by Dr. Larry Rosen</a> gives some insight to why parents should be strategic about their child's technology use.<br />
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Imagine if we could make digital citizenship a priority. We'd all worry a little less.<br />
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This infographic by <b>The Wired Child</b>, made me sit up and take notice about technology use in really young kids.<br />
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Source: <a href="http://www.early-childhood-education-degrees.com/">Early Childhood Education Degrees</a><br />
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via <a href="http://www.early-childhood-education-degrees.com/the-wired-child/">Early Childhood Education Degrees.com</a>SRaischhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303486464283391099noreply@blogger.com0