Bullying: A Big Complicated Problem with Many Simple Solutions

If each one of us untangled one string at a time...

Thursday, May 28, 2009

Tricia's Story: What's Your Take?


Let’s start with a school in New York: Tricia's Story

Tricia, a smart, quiet seventh grader has been constantly taunted for two years. Her classmates tease her about everything from what she wears to her bushy eyebrows. She sits alone at lunch and Tricia’s classmates make sure to ignore her in the hallways or “accidentally” bump into her.

Tricia has started to put herself down and is feeling “ugly” and “dumb.” Mom, an extrovert, advises her introverted daughter: “Just yell back at them when they tease and take no nonsense.”

The “nonsense” continues and after many letters and phone calls to the school administration with no results, her mother’s patience wears thin. She asks Tricia if she could talk to the kids directly and, surprisingly, Tricia encourages it. So on the way home from a school trip to an amusement park, Tricia’s mom stands up, asks the teacher if she could say a few words, and to the amazement of all on the bus, Tricia’s mom is blunt. She calls out the entire class and the boisterous mood turns to shock. As they squirm in their seats, Tricia’s mom tells them in no uncertain terms that she knows what they’re doing and they better stop.

Right or wrong? Stay tuned for the next Tangled Ball blog when we ask the experts to weigh in.

The Tangled Ball Theory

Flipping through the channels or reading the paper, the subject of bullying seems to be getting more and more attention. Even Oprah is tackling it. But when I started to research it for myself after watching Columbine unfold, I realized it was so much more than stereotypical Jock-Or-Nerd social strife. It’s about superiority, inferiority, self-esteem, empowerment, communication, sadness and a lot of confusion.

In short, it’s a tangled ball.

I have a library of books and have been in and out of many meetings and conventions across the country about all types of bullying. After all of the reading, listening and networking, one thing is clear: there is no “one size fits all” solution. Each strand, each perspective needs to be “untangled” one home at a time.

So here’s the first example of a bullying situation. Each bullying situation is different but it happens absolutely everywhere. Obviously, we’re not crazy enough to use real names but everything else is true. We’ll spell out the situation and how adults handled it.

Next, we’ll bring in the experts.

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

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How a Read-a-thon Can Help Change a Life ...Mine



OLQP learns that reading pays off even in tough times.

Students at Our Lady Queen of Peace in New Dorp learned whether their hard work to raise money for two important causes during their annual Readathon, despite the economy, paid off. This year's themes: “Making Life Sweeter for Shannyn and Friends” and the Fr. Gannon OLQP Scholarship Fund hit home.

Since her birth four years ago, the entire OLQP parish has been praying for a brave little girl, Shannyn Craig. Shannyn suffers from ACC (Agenesis of the Corpus Callosum), a birth defect in which the structure that connects the two hemispheres of the brain (the corpus callosum) is partially or completely absent. In Shannyn’s case, ACC has caused a wide variety of physical challenges. As a continuation of their commitment to Shannyn, the students raised money to donate to the NODCC (National Organization for Disorders of the Corpus Callosum) for research to help find a cure for ACC.

Money was also raised for the Fr. Gannon Scholarship Fund, named for OLQP’s beloved pastor who passed away last March. The scholarship will make it possible for a parish family facing financial challenges to send their children to OLQP.
You could hear a pin drop as Mrs. Michele Craig, Shannyn’s mother, told the nearly 500 students and many of their parents, “Although Shannyn cannot see and will never walk, talk, or do any of the things that all of you do, Shannyn feels the love, support, prayers and good wishes from all of you.”

The money raised far surpassed the $3,000.00 goal with the final dollar amount coming to $4,785.02. (As the students learned, “Every penny counts!”)

During the “kids helping kids” campaign, they read for donations, collected change, hosted a “dress down day” and sold ice cream and symbols cut out in the form of Hershey kisses. Students and families used the “kisses” to write personal notes to both Shannyn as well as to Fr. Gannon’s family. The symbols were then used to spell out a huge “We Can Help” message on the wall and later given as gifts to the Craig and Gannon families. Huge symbolic “candy jars” also graced the walls with personalized cut outs of candy representing each child. OLQP had 100% participation.

“This was truly a labor of love for the students and parent volunteers, who went above and beyond the call of duty to make sure we raised enough money, awareness and spirits for deserving recipients,” said Mrs. Susan Raisch, Volunteer Director of the Readathon.

A special partnership between eighth graders and kindergartners added to the success of the project. They teamed up to read, count pennies, eat ice cream and talk about what the Readathon is all about. Eighth grader Ashley Mooney explained, “What I learned in my years at Our Lady Queen of Peace is that it is important to help others. I feel privileged to be a part of this team.”

One of the students wrote a message on a “kiss” that reads, “Dear Fr. Gannon, Enjoy heaven. Don’t worry. We are helping Shannyn as much as we can.” That says it all.

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

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